I think the problem with docs who don't listen is pandemic. Very few do. I am disabled because it took me 30 years and a huge number of docs to find one who took me seriously about my broken ankle, with the result that a minor break became a destroyed ankle joint and resulting damage to knee and hip.
When I was attacked on the street and broke my wrist since I decided NOT to kill the attacker with my karate chop, the doc told his assistant (in my hearing) that it was not broken, but he would have it Xrayed to placate me. I pointed out the break he had missed on the Xray. Years later, he appologized and said he used the story in training new docs.
Much later yet, it took 7 Xray sets and 5 docs to find my rebroken wrist (leg gave out, fell down stairs).
The only reason my ankle was finally diagnosed correctly is because my DH went in with me and looked mean so the correct place was Xrayed.
I don't like my current doc but we understand each other and he reads what I give him. He is very competant, once he has the correct info.
Changing docs or not is often a tricky issue. Sometimes it's easier to retrain the one you have. Mine knows I'll research my symptoms and his diagnosis. He knows I won't take anything that will make my total situation worse. (I react badly to almost all pain or sleeping pills.)
Unfortunately MOST male docs still have heavy gender biases.