I am a person who does not relish confrontation, but when it's necessary, let it be productive. I am loving this whole thread, the good, bad, and the ugly. Why? bc it gives me insight, to what other ppl are thinking and feeling, and my fear level goes down.
I am an introvert. I married a very extroverted man. He is a shoot straight from the hip...and fast...type person. He may have rubbed off, a little bit in the joking dept. out of survival with his family :roll: :lol:
Ok. heardja. I been real good for a while now, and will continue.
But...he hurts more feelings than I do.
Bc, long after the smoke from his gun has faded, I may still be pondering a shoot, or laughing about an imagined one.
POINT? - remember, - different strokes for different folks.
Just bc you assume a person means to be ________ (fill in the blank with a negative assumption), DOESN'T MEAN THEY ARE.
Kwhite - you get a standing ovation from me. Not my call, but tools and flags, are an excellent idea.
a flag doesn't have to be for any one person, but for the thread, so each person would stop and think...is it me? how do I sound to others?
reality check, flag.
A fire drill or alarm is for everyone, and nobody gets hurt, individually, bc maybe more than one is "out there"...and needs to check themselves.
Really don't think we have been having this problem as much, in past week or two, imho.
How about a list of suggestions from admin, and voting by members on them. Majority rules.
Then ppl will stop feeling 'controlled', and there will be no reason to complain.
A calendar is a great idea...to me.
I would like a description or a definition of the following:
- troll rate (thank you! bearisgray :D )
- attention seekers (ok, I'm blonde and admit it)
are we referring to "sellers of wares?" , ppl that join, only to stir, be silly, and disappear...like the quiltsurfer, or whatever he called himself?
I probably have more questions, but can't think of them.
I agree that one or two complaints to admin about a thread, or comment,
are not enough reason to remove it.
why?
bc, ppl can complain to a buddy via pm, and both go pm a complaint.
Has this happened? I have no idea what's been happening, except having been a moderator, once upon a time, your view from that side of the fence is different from the average board member, who is coming online/on board for enjoyment, comraderie, to share, etc.
If I opened pm's all day, and most of them were negative, I might think there's all kinds of trouble/problems on my board, while the average member, is oblivious, until they keep hearing or seeing signs.
But....are things really as bad as they seem? or do we just need adjustments? Let's keep it in perspective.
This board ain't got no flat tires...
Don't we all love it here? aren't we all appreciative overall?
We don't need a new transmission, just a tune - up.
I for one, think we should have these discussions every 4-6 weeks, and like now...really open up.
I think we are all very sincere when we say our thank you's, but isn't it nice to feel ok saying, "this kind of bothers me", without fear that your going to be boo'd off or chastised?
I think there is fear here already and agreee, that a three strikes rule, would ensure dust and tumbleweeds in GCC. don't agree? try it.
If I got a pm from any member that said, "Qc, you said it was ok to let you know... ____, but make sure that I am guilty or unaware, and I will beg your apology. don't agree? try it :mrgreen:
In theory, 3 strikes sounds ok, but admin would then be inundated with fearful pm's,...Is this ok?
Is this offensive?
what do you think of?...and then the person would have to relate their whole post, to be sure he gave approval of the whole thing.
You think ppl are smart enough to decide, and don't need to ask.
We are smart.
But we are all here, bc we are all wondering about something, came looking for information. Not knowing everything, is not the same as being dumb. to me :mrgreen: