I know how you feel- but the opposite. I give the quilt with the instruction that I want it used and loved. And if it ever needs repair, it's OK, I'll fix it.
I was one of those Moms that saved it "for good", not realizing the maker was really wanting to be used and seen on the bed. My girls appreciate the hand made quilt and afghan from their godmothers, but they wish they were allowed to use them.
I was a bit miffed recently, I made a really pretty girly girl quilt for my daughter's best friend's little one. I told I expect to see this toddler getting attached to it and wanting to make it her special blankie. Guess what- her Grandmother took it to her house- 2 hours away to put it on a bed that the little girl sleeps in every few months. She wanted to make sure she didn't ruin it. I told daughter they need to get it back- it's Izy's quilt, not her Grandmothers.
Bottom line- once it leaves your hands, no more control. :(