I would look at my daughter and say " what pattern and colors do you have in mind", I know this will probably be one of the toughest things you have ever done, but, she's yours,a dn his child, I get to hear a lot of people complain about their ex'es, help your daughter by showing her that you can be a real grown up and except the marriage of your ex, remember he is your ex for a reason, and laugh to yourself each time you think of them sleeping under the quilt you helped to create for them to sleep under