It's really sad when family can't seem to at least be courteous to one another. As with many families we have some serious differences that serve to divide us, but so far we have been able to be civilized and at least avoid confrontation at family gatherings. I do so wish the snide remarks to others that are guaranteed to get back to the one(s) being talked about would quit, but, all I can do is tell the one(s) affected 'consider the source and go on'. Unfortunately some people just seem to bring out the worst in everyone around them.