Well, even if you don't "like" something, that doesn't mean it can't keep you warm, does it? You can put it between your sheet and a quilt you love in the winter. Or hang it on the wall in a room you don't use too much. I always find the good in something and would be sure to let the quilter know that. "It's so soft and love this color! I'm going to hang it in my laundry room since I spend so much time there! It will cheer me up!"
Trust me, if my 14-year old son can open used Tupperware containers in front of someone, you can handle a gift quilt!