I really enjoyed reading this thread. Since I am so much older and wiser lol, I have this in my mind. My quilts will never be a problem to anyone, because if you want one of my quilts, you will have to purchase it and if you do, that means you are crazy about it and you will love it lol.
I don't give my quilts or painted items away. I spend hours on some of my quits, hours that are very joyful to me. I only really know what my husband or son would like and my sister. If any of my relatives, like a certain something and say it at the time and I want to part with that item, I will give it to them. Last year my niece was here from England and she flipped over my Christmas tree skirt and I gave it to her and I think I posted it on here at the time.
Another one of my nieces was crazy about my, "California Burning" painted large canvas that I had posted on facebook, so I sent that to her. This is the only way one of my treasures leave my house. I don't always give away, what they want tho lol.
It would hurt me deeply if my work wasn't appreciated, therefore I make sure it doesn't happen. We can't always guess what someone will like and we can't blame a person for their taste. One year an Aunt gave me some craft she made out of those plastic canvases. I wouldn't dream of hurting her feelings as those aren't my cup of tea but I know how she enjoyed making them, so I just put them away for a while and later donated them, after they were long forgotten.
Let me touch on the expense of making a quilt. We all know how much money is involved in a quilt, not considering the time spent making it. Why would I embark on such an expensive project, hoping that a certain person will like my taste? It's not fair to you or the person really.