I think you are a very nice person and it is totally natural to do what you did. I have a similar situation, but it was my sister and niece who made quilts for my only grandchild and I wanted to make his first quilt. They started working on them as soon as the pregnancy was announced. I was hurt, but I just decided that I would wait and make the first quilt for his "big boy" bed in a couple of years. The workmanship on the quilts was excellent-my sister and niece have taken quilting lessons. I haven't, but I am picky.
Pat