This is the part of getting older that really is not fair (that's not what I want to say)... You will get through this and it is hard, been there, done that. Look to your girlfriends for encouragement and strength. If you don't have any, find some! Join some groups, do some volunteering, etc. Most of all, take care of yourself, Mom and daughter and you will never be sorry. It will get better, trust me!