How very sad. I've never made a quilt for a recent loss. I'm never sure if looking at it will make the person grieving sadder and she can't bear to look at it, no matter how much she appreciates the kindness. I just don't know what to think, maybe others here do. You are very sweet to consider this. Maybe you can give it to her in a few months from now. The reason I say this is because when I volunteered with Hospice, in the Bereavement dept, we usually did not get called for support until about 3 months had passed after the death. That's because around that time the friends and even family members are tired of it (grief) and just want the person to get on with life. So maybe receiving the quilt then will be a visual validation that you realize she is still in mourning and you haven't forgotten. I don't really know, I haven't been there myself, thank God.