I had my mother live with us for 15yrs after my father died, she wished everyday that it had been her. I have 4 other siblings that would not help at all. 4 months ago due to economic downturn had to downsize and take my mother to brothers. I miss her so much even with the frustrating things she did. He won't speak to me now because of this, expected me to still pay for everything and won't let me know if she is still with him or if he forced her into a nursing home. They live 100 miles away. Cherish this time because it is gone sooner than you know.