I digested your story from both angles and with lots of memories. I have always been very healthy and have been the caregiver many times, sometimes only helping with meds, banking, paying bills, etc. My mom and my husband got along so well for short visits, but were like our dog and the neighbor's cat if together for any longer than 2 days. We worked it out, but I constantly pray that I will be the recipient of offered help with much grace and recognition that it is time. Don't forget to take care of yourself as well as your mom. I was losing my hair and no medical reason was found for it. After my mom passed it grew back. I did not recognize that I was under stress; my body did.