If you can win that battle, please, please, tell me what you did. I've been battling that problem for 43 years and unfortunately for me I frequently gave in, so now I'm paying the price big time. He's disabled with severe vertigo so it's not a physical disability per se, however, I've been unable to find work since 2 days after he became disabled, so we have been together 24/7 ever since. We had to leave our home of 33 years because of medical bills and move to a small apt. and it's difficult to be together in such a small space. The only thing he doesnt tell me how or what to do is cooking, darn it. Keep the faith.