Originally Posted by
sandybuttons
I understand how you feel, when we grow up feeling inferior or hurt when we reach out, not putting our selves out there for someone to hurt us again feels safe. I can finish quilts because they are mine and I don't have to share unless I want to, but I do not make phone calls or send cards or write letters. I feel safer just not reaching out. I know no one is going to be unkind any more but this thing inside holds me back.If I do call my children the first thing they ask is something wrong. I am okay with it because it is just me, and unders.tanding why I don't reach out helps. Not finishing a quilt is your business and you never have to finish if you don't want to. Quilting is your journey go as far as makes you happy
I think this is partly what I'm feeling - I suspect there are some old, half-buried memories of being proud of things I'd done and then the terrible disappointment of being told they weren't very good. On another forum this week someone made a mildly critical comment - though I'm absolutely sure it was even intended as such - and all the compliments I'd received on that piece of work just turned to dust -I could only see what she'd called attention to. It's so true that one criticism outweighs 10 compliments! Maybe not finishing protects me from the vulnerability of having the quilt out there and open to criticism and/or disappointment.