Oh, I think you are so lucky! Just a little info before I explain...my mother died in an accident 5 months after I married....and my in-laws (while lovely people) were never really 'helpful' with our 3 children (who are now grown but yet unmarried). I am a kdg teacher and I have been so fortunate to see other teacher friends who are grandparents be so active in their grandchildren's lives. I have 2 friends (both retired now) in particular that I am always telling that I 'want to be the grandparent they are' someday. You and hubby will adjust to the baby...and baby will adjust to the new routine...and mom will adjust as well. I am 3 years away from when I can take early-retirement and I do look forward to it. Who knows...by then maybe I will a grandbaby to spoil!!!!!! I hope you enjoy this opportunity!