Ramona-Go online to cemeteries where you think your father may be buried. There has been an effort for cemeteries to list those buried. Unfortunately, with so many cremations these days not everyone is buried.
Betsy- Who is that clerk to tell you that you can't talk to the judge? If you really want to find out your history, maybe you know someone who knows the judge and you could "meet" that way. The judge would probably be upset to know that such a simple request was denied. The clerk is on a power trip...it's the only power that sad individual has.