In high school there was a guy that we all knew that volunteered for Vietnam. His dad and older brother were already there. He got a telegram that his dad and brother were killed and his mother needed him at home , for fear she would be left with no family. The red cross contacted him and paid for his trip home then after the funerals , sent him a bill and said he would be sued if not paid , for over $10,000.00 I've never given a dime to them since then.