I tell the mothers of the babies or kids that I give quilts to that it should be used, washed, and used again. My BFF gets upset when the grands are over and play with the quilts I gave her, baby grand sucks on one of them, told BFF just wash them (the quilts that is) they can take.
You know we all feel 'bad or hurt'
when any gift we give isn't liked or is discarded but that's life. Good suggested someone made, add them to your gift card list and save your feelings and it saves a lot of time and effort on your part.
Had to laugh at brother who says his quilt does everything, covers firewood, etc., at least he puts it to good use and probably thinks about his sister each time he does. I was surprised that my brother who hardly every says anything always thanks me for the scrappy lap quilt I made him when he bought a house in PA. He was recently widowed at the time I gave it to him and when his wife was alive she lived mostly for her family and he was sort of left by the wayside so someone making him something just for himself must have meant a lot to him. I just happened to be that someone because I had never thought it out - I was looking for a reason to visit him in his new home as he had been there quite some time and hadn't invitied anyone to visit him. Guess I was more self serving than caring.