If I made what I thought was a wonderful personal quilt, that I labored over in regards to colors and pattern, I would certainlly say to the recipent, "please if you don't like it, its not your style, then let me know, return it to me knowing my feelings will not be hurt and I will will make you another and do something else".....but to learn they 2 months after receiving it, they gave it to Goodwill...my feelings would be hurt.....But if they said to me, I loved that quilt that you made for me, but I found a man that was cold and wrapped him in your quilt to keep him warm....that would make me happy !!!