My feelings don't get hurt by how people choose to use my quilts, my heart just soars with joy if they are using them at all.
My dog has taken a personal interest in most all of my house quilts, so I can't complain when others do the same. She makes a beeline to any quilt she sees, it's pretty funny actually. I have a few quilts where I like the back more than the front, so if someone has a quilt folded "wrong" on the sofa, I usually assume they didn't pay attention to how they folded it- but I might think maybe the prefer my quilting to my piecing, either way, the quilt is out.
I made my nephew a baby quilt, and for 5-years, never once saw it. I figured it was never used, and had likely been donated- forgotten that it was a hand made speciality. Well, 5 years later my sister sends a picture of my nephews playing out in the snow. The new babies are laying on that old quilt. Yes, it was outside in dirty snow, but it was still in the house, and still loved by the recipients.
Once I give it away, I can no longer control it. But man, it sure does make me happy if I find out that the recipients do use it, and haven't hidden it away (or worse, given it away)