I give and let go....but must admit was a bit surprised when last year I made a quilt for my mother. I agonised over the pattern, spent quite a bit of money on some special fabrics (all her favourite colours)...stitched with love and care. The backing I had on hand...chintzy apricot/mauve rose fabric (not a favourite of mine)...but I knew Mum would like it. The idea was, she could use it for Nanna Naps etc. Sure enough she keeps it on the end of the bed....Backside up! My sister and I make a game of sneaking into her room and flipping it right side up every time we visit.....As long as she loves it and uses it...I don't really mind
