Jane: hang in there. You've gotten some good advice from everyone here. I think at one time or another we all go to that "dark place" and need time and love to get out of it. I go there from October to March. My
dil and yours sound alike. I searched for months for the right color fabric for a table runner for her BD ande invited them to dinner. She couldn't come-was out with girlfriends so I sent the runner home with my son. Did she like it? Who the hell knows--that was in June and she hasn't mentioned it one way or the other. I did what someone suggested and posted a pic here and got lots of positive feedback (thanks, guys!) Just know we're here and pulling for you.
Peace-Jan