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Thread: Down in the Dumps Need a Lift

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    I am in a weary dumpy mood and cant seem to get interested in quilting or anything. All I do is sit on this computer and read the quilt board and play games. I recently lost a good friend and thought that maybe why I feel this way but somehow I dont think so. I had recently finshed around 12 placemats, now what to do with them. They were an unfinshed project and finally got them done but now feel wrung out, should be ready for new projects. I tryed cutting the other day and managed to cut out enough to do some blocks but couldnt seem to sit at machine and sew. Do any of you ever get this way and how do you fight it?

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    I understand what you are feeling. I get in a slump too and quilting isn't enjoyable when I feel that way. I just give myself a day or two to feel better. Sometimes a visit to the fabric store helps me.

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    I think that happens to most artists. Give yourself some time and surround yourself with visual inspiration. When I get in those slumps, I try some technique that is above and beyond my comfort level. Most of the time I learn something new or decide to change directions and make something I know I can handle!

    Don't beat yourself up. Sometimes you just need a creative break. You'll get back in the swing soon.

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    Jane, Do you have quilt magazines or books handy? Looking through them may help you--especially if you go back to some ones you haven't opened in a while.
    Just heard a radio talk show on how working with ones hands helps fight off depression better than drugs :lol: . Hey what do we quilters do? Do you have some hand work on some WIP's to do? Sometimes we need to finish what we started and then regain a feeling of accomplishment :lol:
    And yes I think we've all been there.

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    You probably heard this before but it works! Get out and walk in the sunshine. Walk around your yard, sit in the sun for awhile. Find an ant and follow it! Just get outside and stay outside for a few hours. Pull some weeds, water the weeds, wash the car, the sidewalk, the driveway. Sit down in the grass and look for a 4 leaf clover or lay down and look at the sky. When I get the drags I make myself get outside and do something even if it is just sitting on the stoop watching and thinking.

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    I get the "blahs" as I call it, too. The computer or TV can really suck me in when I'm in one of those moods. I have to force myself to turn them off. Generally, I go outside if it's sunny. I like to walk off my moods but even if I don't walk, just being outside in the sunshine seems to help me. I think my brain needs real light instead of the light bulb stuff in the house.

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    Yes I have felt that way. I was in a depression and only going deeper. My friends and family finally talked me into getting help. I went to my doctor and she put me on anti-depressants. I've been on them a few times and always go off and end up depressed again. My brain just doesn't produce enough seritonin. Needless to say, I won't be going off them again. It's nice to have my life back. It's not a shameful thing to be on anti-depressants.

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    Quote Originally Posted by joeyoz
    Yes I have felt that way. I was in a depression and only going deeper. My friends and family finally talked me into getting help. I went to my doctor and she put me on anti-depressants. I've been on them a few times and always go off and end up depressed again. My brain just doesn't produce enough seritonin. Needless to say, I won't be going off them again. It's nice to have my life back. It's not a shameful thing to be on anti-depressants.
    You're right Joey some folks need the assistance of anti depressants, just like I need my Synthroid for hypothyroidism. But if working with ones hands helps anyone fight off depression its worth a try :D

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    Quote Originally Posted by oksewglad
    Quote Originally Posted by joeyoz
    Yes I have felt that way. I was in a depression and only going deeper. My friends and family finally talked me into getting help. I went to my doctor and she put me on anti-depressants. I've been on them a few times and always go off and end up depressed again. My brain just doesn't produce enough seritonin. Needless to say, I won't be going off them again. It's nice to have my life back. It's not a shameful thing to be on anti-depressants.
    You're right Joey some folks need the assistance of anti depressants, just like I need my Synthroid for hypothyroidism. But if working with ones hands helps anyone fight off depression its worth a try :D
    I totally agree. This quilt I called "Out of My Depression" is what helped me. The more I worked on it, the better I felt. When I finished it, I felt an actual release.

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    Wonderful :!:

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    I think working on a baby or child's quilt helps

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    We all hit slumps . I was in one last winter and I finally realized what it was . I LOVE to sew , quilt and create outside. Really I do.. I take my machine out on the front porch have two card tables set up and work like a crazy fool :roll: Sometimes you just have to take a break and realize it is "OK" to give yourself a break and know that the mojo will come back . And think about what , when or how you create the best and what has changed ? I already know this winter I will slump again, but I am trying to sign up for smaller swaps and keep myself busy . Use the board to think about future projects that you want to make when the urge hits :lol:

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    a big cry....
    sometimes helps.....
    you know your eyes get alittle red....
    a big cry helps.



    Darlene




    (just don't cry too long)

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    I LOVE that quilt and I also agree. I was in the same position where I you were .. I didnt want to do anything even play with my kids!!!! I didnt even go on the computer I just wanted to sleep all day. My Ex husband said going to the dr for depression was being weak. I went to the dr and also found my brain did not produce enough seratonin and went on meds and I enjoy life again. Some people just need a good cry and a box of chocolates or ice cream but if nothing helps please consider the dr. It cant hurt and there is nothing wrong with needing help!! Lots of love and hugs coming your way!!!

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    Thanks Guys, all of your comments are great and do seem to help some what. I am very familiar with depression as my husband suffers from it and is on meds for it but mine is a short term thing and it will get better but i am worried about how I feel about quilting. I had just spent several months making my GD a quilt, doll quilt, two pillows and two prarie dolls and as she is only 4 loved them but my DIL did not seem to notice or care about them and how much time I put into them. Before I left to come to florida they were wadded up and thrown about the childs room and it ddnt seem to faze them at all. I put my love blood sweat and tears into it and no one except my dear hubby cared. As I am living in such a small trailer I dont have room to keep things so need to give them away when finshed, is everything I do not going to be appreciated? It makes me not want to do it anymore.

    Thanks again for all your comments.

    Peace and Love

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    don't worry over how you feel about quilting. that isn't the issue.

    the issue is how you feel about the way your gifts have been treated.

    the solution is to never give again to those you know are ungrateful.

    there are bazillions of charity organizations who will help you put your quilts into the hands of many who will be deeply touched and forever appreciate your gifts.

    tell your DIL what you feel and why you feel that way. then give all your future work to the friends, family and charities you know will treat you and your quilts with the proper respect.


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    Patrice is right. There are so many charities out there that could get your gifts into the hands of people who would really appreciate them and treat your gifts with the respect and love that you have put into them. Don't let what has happened deterr you. You will get back to it....if you love quilting it won't go away, it will be there waiting for you.

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    Quilts,dolls, stuffed animals, etc donated to a Crisis Center are always appreciated by the ones receiving them. I know growing up we didn't appreciate our quilts from our grandmother until we started making things ourselves, now we are repairing those same quilts so we can have the memories preserved.
    If your granddaughter liked them she will hopefully start to use them and be happy with anything you give her. Does wadded up mean that your granddaughter was wrapping the babies up to keep them warm.
    Hopefully the Florida sunshine gives you the boost you need to get out of the slump. I have been at the same place you have and a change is sometimes what is needed.
    Good luck and I hope you are feeling energized soon. Have you made anything for you and your husband?

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    Hi Denise thanks for the encouragement. Florida right now is brutal. It isnt fit for man or beast. It feels like 100 when you go out so I havent. Maybe part of the problem. What I havent said is that I am disabled and dont walk to well so dont exercise or walk much. I am lucky to go and get my groceries and do my laundry. Money is tight so cant do to much, hubby is also disabled and gets depressed real easy so that doesnt help bring me up any. Long story and wont bore everyone. As far as my lovely grandaughter, she loved the items when I gave them to her and played with them but soon lost interest as many 4 year olds will but mom just didnt care that they were thrown haphazardly in the closet and forgot about. I cherish my quilts my mother made me and saw how much work she put into them. She made some beautiful quilts all hand embroidered and hand quilted. She has some nice ribbons of every color from the quilt shows and I have them also. I have one quilt that she made me one of last ones before she died with my favorite color and it is king size and I have never used because my bed is only a queen and it is too big. She made my son and his my DIL a beautiful one for their wedding it was queen size and I have never seen it since. Never saw it on the bed. Anyway will try some of you alls suggestions and hope things get better.

    Peace and Love

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    I know everything is easier said then done. When I would visit our daughter (she lived in Miami) I would take pictures of some of the bathroom tile floors. I don't think I will ever get a chance to quilt them but some are awesome. I do a lot of sketches of quilts and ideas. I know some people the same as you DIL and Son, they have their own ideas and if what you make doesn't fit it doesn't go in their house. Have you made anything that is their style, it may be out of your comfort zone but more to their liking. I know some people like ultra modern, I know from working with my DD and DIL that we have very different taste even though we like what each other does.

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    To be honest, I dont think she really cared one way or the other. She is a little self centered and it shows. I gave her my grandmothers sewing machine so that she could sew, the bobbin case had a problem and instead of trying to fix a 10 dollar part bought at joanns, she went out and bought a new machine and now it just sits in a box. She doesnt use any of them. My son will always side with her so I dont talk to him about it. I dont want to start a family feud it isnt worth it. I live in Florida and they live in PA so I guess it is better that way. I worry about my grandchildren and hope they dont turn out like her. So hopefully I will get over this and start sewing again.


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    Quote Originally Posted by BellaBoo
    You probably heard this before but it works! Get out and walk in the sunshine. Walk around your yard, sit in the sun for awhile. Find an ant and follow it! Just get outside and stay outside for a few hours. Pull some weeds, water the weeds, wash the car, the sidewalk, the driveway. Sit down in the grass and look for a 4 leaf clover or lay down and look at the sky. When I get the drags I make myself get outside and do something even if it is just sitting on the stoop watching and thinking.
    BellaBoo has recommended exactly what I would have. Get outside. If walking isn't something you can do, if the weather makes it miserable outside, then at least get out of your place and visit with other people.

    As for your quilting efforts being unappreciated, try to put that in perspective. Not everyone is into quilts or quilted things. Don't hold that against them, just don't waste your time quilting for them. Realize that they probably do appreciate you in many other ways!

    The little one loved what you made for her. Be glad of that.

    If you'd like some appreciation, consider posting pictures of your quilts here. We'd all love to see them!

    And since money's tight, consider selling your work online or to gift shops or at farmer's markets. (potholders, chair cushions, tote bags, keychain fobs, bookmarks, little wall hangings...)


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    Jane, Sorry you DIL didn't appreciate all the love you poured into your granddaughter's quilt and things. Been there too.

    My recipe for you is:
    1. Have a big portion of chocolate or cake, or both,
    2. Grab all your scraps and sew some string or crumb blocks, always works for me. Blocks look pretty ugly when they get big, but when I trim them they look great. There's usually a big mess all over but when I clean the mess up I feel great - like the mess in my mind has been cleared up.

    Try it, might be just what you need to get your spirit up and running again. May in Jersey

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    I find when I feel this way, the TV and computer take over my life. I need someone or something to get up and do. Much of my depression blues come from a lack of sunlight. Especially at the beginning of October when the daylight is noticeably less. I guess I sort of adjust, because my late October I have adjusted. But if Spring doesn't come in March/April, I get really ugly.

    I am looking for a lamp that will imitate sunshine to help me this fall. So far, they have all been too expensive. I've heard people sware that these lamps will work.

    You have such a wonderful husband, perhaps a weekend away together, even at a Motel 6 on the other side of town, might just do the trick too. Gwyn

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    I am sitting here reading all your comments and know that what your saying sounds and is good and I will try and do a few of them and hope they help. This board has a great big crowd of people that are truly caring and giving and I thank you so much for listening. As for my hubby he is the best, he just handed me a nice cup of tea.

    Peace and love

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