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Thread: Down in the Dumps Need a Lift

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    I've been reading this - it will probably get moved to the PDA section in a bit -

    1) Are you being treated for depression? Many of us have no qualms about treating conditions like diabetes or thyroid conditions with medications, but when it involves mental or emotional issues - which in many cases have underlying physiological conditions - we balk at taking medications.

    So - are your hormones in adjustment?

    2) Being cash poor is trying. And frustrating.

    3) I think the biggest issue is your DIL's apparent lack of interest and appreciation in the gifts that you made for your granddaughter. I can definitely relate to that.

    On a charitable note - your DIL may be totally clueless as to how much is involved in making a quilt - I know that at 68 I value some things MUCH more than I did at 20 and 25.

    So I would not make any more major items for them - only items that would not break my heart if they weren't used or appreciated - examples: pillowcases or pot holders.

    There is a program called "Sit and Be Fit" that's on some of the PBS stations - that might be an option for getting some exercise.

    It is more challenging when DH is also down in the dumps.

    Good luck - hope things look better for you soon.

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    Glad you brought this up, I am taking some of the suggestions also. Had a death in the family that knocked the wind out of my sails, so I needed this reminder! Thanks!

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    Jane...We all have been there! At times like a good slump like that, espec one when we lose those that are precious to us, we have a good stump to step up and over! The best advice I could give anyone at a time like this is to reach out and help someone that really needs it!! I made walker bags in a good slump such as yours..there are free patterns online too! I took them to a nursing home w/an oval center so they could write whoever's name on them....something so simple is such a treasure to those that need it and have no way of getting it...espec holiday themes....like fall leaves!! Just make sure if you do something like this...do straps on the bottom sides to button on so they dont swing as they walk. Guess what I am saying is to reach out and help someone that needs it....it helps to take not only a void feeling away but, can really make someone's life rich in so many way!! Most of all....give yourself a big hug....you are a very special person!! Skeat

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    And, have you thought of making a memory quilt of your friend? I just sat thru an awesome crazy quilt class...awesome what they put in them!! Just another idea!! Skeat

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    Thanks everyone, I know I will get thru this and even spent a half hour today talking to my neighbor. We discussed her current quilt she is making. I spent so much time working on my projects that when I dont I feel lost and alone but as of right now just dont have the push to do it. I am some what of a beginner so dont think I am quite up to charity quilts just yet. I did look at some BOM's that look interesting but not sure if it is too much for me. Anyone have much experience with them and could tell me the good and bad about them?

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    Jane: hang in there. You've gotten some good advice from everyone here. I think at one time or another we all go to that "dark place" and need time and love to get out of it. I go there from October to March. My
    dil and yours sound alike. I searched for months for the right color fabric for a table runner for her BD ande invited them to dinner. She couldn't come-was out with girlfriends so I sent the runner home with my son. Did she like it? Who the hell knows--that was in June and she hasn't mentioned it one way or the other. I did what someone suggested and posted a pic here and got lots of positive feedback (thanks, guys!) Just know we're here and pulling for you.
    Peace-Jan

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    Jane you made those quilts with love and thats what counts if they are not appreciated then make them ones who do appreciate the time and love put into them. The loss of someone you love is always hard I recently lost my brother and found myself in no mood to sew I felt lost. give yourself time to grieve then make something for yourself that will remind you of your friend that you can hang above your sewing machine. We will hold you up with lots of hugs.

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    Jane, i'm so sorry how you're feeling. I think i know how you are feeling. You gave a gift from your heart to your grandaughter, because you want to be remembered as a very special person in her life. I think we get to an age in life, me too, where we want to start creating memories that people will remember us by. We want to know that what we did here on earth was good and has a lasting memory. I do understand. My daughter is like that too, about gifts that we give to her daughter. What i have finally realized is, it's not about how they care for the quilt, or whatever the "item" may be. I told somebody i am scared to make a quilt for my daughter, because i'm scared she wont like it. So my friend told me, don't care if she likes it or not, or what she does with it. This is a lasting memory that you want to do, so just do it. Don't even worry bout if she likes it or throws it out is what my friend said. He told me, this is what i want to do, so just do it. He said my memory will be in the making and giving of the gift, not what happens to it after it's out of my hands. He told me to draw a line, after giving it to her, draw a line, smile, know i did my thing, and it's no longer mine after i've given it away. So he was trying to tell me, if i give something away, don't hang on to it, but keep the memory of what i did, and that i did what i wanted to do. So that is what i am going to do, she is getting a quilt, and i will do it my way. And if she likes it or not, i dont care, i need to do this for me, because it's important to me, see what i mean? You asked about BOM's. When i first came to the forum here, i started doing the blocks of the month. They are so quick and easy, no pressure, just one little block. And they are so much fun. You will love how everyone talks about their block, then puts up pictures, there is a lot of chitchat in the bom section, that is really fun and inspiring. I think you would really love that, and would be something just fun and simple for you to do. I havent been doing the bom's lately, only because i have too many projects i'm working on, but i really think you would love doing this. I'm so sorry how you're feeling, but know that you will feel better soon.

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    For me personally, BOM's are a 'good thing'...I did a sampler (plus others I should not confess!LOL) and picked up actually 2 a month from a shop for this....it taught me much and kept me on my toes...for if I finished them, brought them in the next month I had a discount on my next blocks...etc. You will learn much from these!! Some will even deliver in the mail...but, if you can get out and go pick them up...I recommend it! The one shop here on BOM saturday does a small program early doing a show and tell in a sense of what is new and what is happening...much fun!

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    You guys are so wonderful-----this is the greatest board. I just signed up for a BOM at one of the shops on FabShopHop. Its the Pennsylvania Dutch One cause I am PA Dutch and loved the colors and the design looks ok. I hope they give me instructions on how to put it together.

    As for going to the shops to pick them up we have only one and I have yet to go and see it. I know that the local shops are too expensive for me so dont want to temp my self. Cause I just love to shop for fabric. I did find last month a Walmart who is an hour away has a really good fabric department and according to the manager of that department plans on keeping it. She has a large assostment of fabric and states that she buys 2000 bolts a month. She carries the quilt of the month and you can find them shown at AEnathanfabrics.com. I bought the one for September when I was home for the month of August. I fell in the love with the October one called fudge ripple but have not had the money to buy it. When I do she will probably be out of it, she told me that it was half gone already and that was a week ago. So we will see next week when we go for our monthly trip to walmart. Thanks everyone for trying to cheer me up.

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    Glad you jumped aboard to the BOM's! You won't be sorry!! Best part is they are not overwhelming...for you have a month to get it done...which for me was always in the first week! I couldn't stand to wait!!:)They always come w/the instructions and you will learn since you are not in a rush how to perfect your cutting and sewing! It's a great way to do so too! Then at the end of the story...you have some blocks to put together for a whole quilt(minus the borders)! I'd take mine out and put them on my flannel design wall....just to see how great they were looking as they grew in numbers:)You will love it too! Skeat

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    i think it's time for this conversation to move over to a PDA.

    jane ... i'm glad to see you're starting to cheer up. please start a PDA to keep everybody posted.


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