My best quilting friend was very ill last year. She had a daughter that she named as executor of her estate who siad she would get a dumpster put below her second floor apartment and throw all her sewing stuff into it. My friend changed her executor to her son. He is to see that I get all her UFO's to distribute as I see fit. After a neice that quilts chooses what she wants I get the rest of her quilting supplies and books to distribute as I see fit. It was very upsetting for me to hear her talk of passing but I agreed. She knows that I, too, hate waste. Fortunately, with surgery she made it through.
My kids know that I have a list of quilting friends to contact to give my things to after they have chosen what they want. No fighting allowed -use a lottery system. But I think I should put it in writing, too.