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    Super Member fleurdelisquilts.com's Avatar
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    Question Last Will anyone?

    My husband and I had an odd conversation (for 50 year-olds anyway) about what I want him to do with my studio "stuff" if I go before him. After informing him that he IS going first, I really got to thinking about it. I have more stuff than any quilter really should, but he's a good hubby and apparently he loves me cause he actually takes me to quilt shops even with all the fabric and notions and machines that I already have. He figures that stuff in my studio is worth many thousands: two machines, a long arm, fabric, notions, lace, yarn, I don't know what all. Plus the stuff that I inherited from my mom.....

    Okay, so what did I say? Goodness, I have no idea! Now I'm worried someone (namely my sons and dil's) will burn my stuff just to get rid of it!!! Oh goodness, that will not do. No one in my family can sew even a button, so there's no one to give it to or to say "decide about this."

    Have you made arrangements for your quilting supplies and machines? What have you decided? What can anyone do or not do? How do they know? I'll agree that none of it will matter to me when St. Pete is asking questions, but I'd like to know that my work and love will not be tossed without even a thought. Like anyone, I've got tons of money and countless hours of working, organizing, hoarding in there. I need some advice! It's occurred to me that my work and hours may not even be considered.....

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    Look up the Quilter's Will on the net. I had a copy of it and now I can't find it. It is really funny, and will help the kids, etc. know what to do when you are gone.

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    I read where you should pin the names of your friends on your onfinished quilt tops etc and that way if you "go" when your family is going thru your stuff they will say "Oh, mom wanted Suzie to get this etc. I thought that was a good idea.

    I looked up the Quilters Will and here it is....
    http://quiltville.com/quilterswill.shtml
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    I have told my family no flowers.. make arraingements of my fabric and let anyone take what strikes their fancy. I can just picture bouquets of fat 1/4 's.

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    We did the talk. Dh knows it is worth a lot. He wants to keep most of it for our 14 children. Some sew, weave and or quilt and I know they will be all over it. DH would never burn it but he would consider selling materials but not quilts. I asked to be buried/cremated in MY quilt but he is keeping it. That is fine with me. I never thought he was that interested. I asked him what he would do with MY quilt and he just smiled.
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    I like your idea Lori ....
    Make it a scrappy happy day!

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    Will it to charity if you have no one to give it to, like quilts for kids orvalor, or those that make them for the womens shelters, that way you know its going somewhere that can make good use of it

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    I have family and friends who will get my STUFF, anything leftover will go to my guild to be used for charity quilts or sold at our yearly quilters boutique at the guild quilt show. Moneys from the quilters boutique goes to our charity quilts to buy extra batting, backings ect.

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    After reading the quilting will, my husband said he would give me a Viking funeral. Hmmm.

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    I'm giving everything to a girlfriend in my will. My daughter has absolutely no interest in learning how to sew or using my Pfaff embroidery machine Oh well, my GF will be a real happy camper when I go!!!

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    I asked my husband to only let my quilting friends in my sewing room if I die! I have also told my children this!
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    I have 2 daughters-1 will probably not want anything or not very much.I gave her a sewing machine and she never uses it.The other daughter will be all over yelling mine,mine,mine-woo hoo it is all mine.The grand daughters may get some too.No fabric/ufo burning will go on here-well there may be a few uglies hiding yet.
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    My husband has a collection of kerosene lamps and I have the sewing room full of material. I've told my friends, if he goes before me, anyone that comes to the funeral or wake leaves with a lamp. If I should go before him, everyone gets a pack of fat quarters. Either that or our children will get a dumpster ready.

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    Put your wishes in writing and give a copy to whomever you feel needs one. I have told my husband my two quilting buddies get first pick and anything left goes to the group of ladies at church who do such great work and deeds. I think "in writing" is the most important part. But keep a stash - we can't die til our stashes are gone

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweetana3 View Post
    After reading the quilting will, my husband said he would give me a Viking funeral. Hmmm.
    Funny --------

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    I have two daughters who will want most of my stuff. The other two wouldn't be interested. So, I have given instructions that the two who want it must share as equally as possible and enjoy everything they take. If they find out they don't like it or can't use it, they are to donate it to a quilt guild, church, or charity organization that can use it.

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    My whole family had this talk and we decided my husband's going to die first. He saved me from the car accident, so it's his turn.
    So I told the kids, pick whatever they want, and then let whatever's left go in the way I enjoyed my life - have a big auction! Let it go to whoever bids the highest, knowing that at some auctions, things were grouped together until someone wanted to bid something!
    The auctioneers will do all the work, carrying things.
    You know that feeling when you've finished all your quilting projects and your studio is perfectly clean???? Me neither.

    It's not how fast you sew, it's how well you sew fast! Wait, I think that's supposed to be MOW!

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    My girls will get the first pick of all my sewing stuff. Any residue will go to the charity bee that I sew with. The sewing machines will be given to various shelters. My mother can no longer sew and my two sisters, barely threads a needle so mother told me to take all of her sewing stuff. I brought home 8 black bags of fabric, buttons, thread, etc. I have gone through the miscellaneous stuff and have started distributing to various chariites sewing supplies. I will do the same to fabric that I will not use. There are many churches that make quilts and assorted things for their missions. What is not something I would use, can find a good use with other groups. The quilts that I have made for my next generation of grandchildren are ready for them when they get here. I have 14 grandchildren and so far I have completed 10 quilts for the next generation.

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    This was an issue I had to deal with when my sister lost her battle with Colon Cancer in 2001. She had over 2,500 quilt books & a 7 bedrrom house & 2 storage facilities filled with fabric & notions. She also lived 300 miles from me & I was still working as a teacher. As I had only been quilting a few years at that time, I did not know the value of some of the quilt books. If you have a quilt book selection, I suggest getting them listed & include the retail price as well as what you paid for them. Indicate those that are collector's sought after titles. This will help anyone who is given the task of selling them or even claiming them as a charitable tax deduction.

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    That's a very good question, and good answers.
    My quilt guild has been "assigned" the task of receiving fabric, etc. from a friend who passed. We are going to sell the items to guild members and other guilds, and the proceeds will go to a charity.
    But I better think of what I'd like done with all my stash and machines too.

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    One of my grand daughters informed me that when I expire (she informed me that was a nicer way of saying it) she plans on getting all of my machines, fabrics, quilts she wants it all including the house to hold everything! Me I am not going to worry about it but enjoy teaching the children to sew and sharing my love of creating with them.

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    I love your plan.
    Quote Originally Posted by Nona View Post
    My girls will get the first pick of all my sewing stuff. Any residue will go to the charity bee that I sew with. The sewing machines will be given to various shelters. My mother can no longer sew and my two sisters, barely threads a needle so mother told me to take all of her sewing stuff. I brought home 8 black bags of fabric, buttons, thread, etc. I have gone through the miscellaneous stuff and have started distributing to various chariites sewing supplies. I will do the same to fabric that I will not use. There are many churches that make quilts and assorted things for their missions. What is not something I would use, can find a good use with other groups. The quilts that I have made for my next generation of grandchildren are ready for them when they get here. I have 14 grandchildren and so far I have completed 10 quilts for the next generation.

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    My Son and his Daughter do know how much money items are worth. I have now 11 machines., plus bins of fabric, plus plus plus all the other things. Rulers, cutters, scissors, you name it. So I could go happily knowing that my Granddaughter will have extra $ for college or whatever. My son, wants to fill up the living room with my quilting stuff., he loves it, even knows how to work the machines...He is the first in the household to admire the machines I keep bringing in, he absolutely loves the older ones from early 50's. I do too and use ALL of them except the treadle.

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    I've told my DH that everything goes to my quilt guild.

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    i have 5 daughter's. apparently at least two of them want to share the bounty. haven't had the conversation with DH. I also have a friend who quilts. She is my Godmother in the Orthodox church so i'll leave her something as well.
    i had a near death experience a few years ago. Now our family is more open about discussing death and passing on of the things that are memorable to each.

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