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    I have no children and alot of stuff. My husband knows how much the machines are worth but the little stuff....clueless. Never the less, what we paid for it and what it will be worth is two different things. I would have him donate it to our church for them to use for humanitarian projects, if they don't want it a quilt guild will.
    Just my 2 cents and probably not worth that much but I ALWAYS have an opinion!

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    I was the recipient of my dearest friend's stash when she passed last December from brain cancer. I fondle it, ask her what in the world she was thinking?????, have finished some of her UFOs and have donated what I don't think I will ever need to a group of quilters that she taught to quilt at the shop where she worked. They are making quilts from her fabric for a battered woman's shelter. I think of her every day while in my quilting room and than God for the friendship he gifted us.
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    I am 55 and I had my kidney removed last year when they found cancer. We discuss it all openly. I have one daughter, and she sews. I will leave all my stash and my new machine to her. My cutting island also. She can have any of my tools or mats and rulers she wants. It's all hers. She gets that and my Jewelry. It's understood. What my family will need a lawyer for, and a will, is my Hallmark ornaments collection. It's pretty big.
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    My family knows that my DDIL can have what they want (but neither sew) but maybe take some for the DDGD's. Then the rest is to go to my sewing group.

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    DH and I have had this discussion multiple times. His DD has NO interest in sewing, only interest is what I sew for her, such a scrub tops, quilts,...
    His son has NO interest, he thinks it's funny we talk about it, but when we buy a new machine or another antique one, his response is usually something like 'How much was that? Don't you all have enough yet?" or my favorite " Should you all really need to buy anymore of those?" DH tells him "Don't worry son, we're having fun spending your inherientence!" Has kinda turned into the family joke.
    My DD wants to sew, bought her a machine, but she is scared of it. ( needle in finger as a teenager) I will say she at least she says she wants to learn, but have doubts she will. I will in her defence say, she is 24, married and has a little girl, who just turned 6 and she works full time in the O.R. and attends college full time. So, really, when does she really have the time?
    My DH says he would never get rid of any of the quilts. We still have 2 his Grandfather made. He loves the antique machines as much as I do. DGD is 6 and likes to "sew", but like her Mother she may out grow it. Don't know what will happen to it, but DH and kids have promised it will not go in the garbage or in a SALE. I guess time will tell.
    I hate going to estate auctions and there is someone's life work laying out there on the table or ground to just be gotten rid of and the family doesn't want any of it. Especially, quilts and quilt tops. I have come to tears about this before. But we have bought some and my DH and I call it a rescue mission and talk about wondering what stories they could tell or the hands and history of it.
    DH is 53 and I am 43, maybe we are to sentimental, but I can only dream one of our girls or grandchildren loves to sew someday!....
    If no one in the family wants my collection, I want it donated to a charity organization.
    Like where I make Pillow Cases for Foster Kids.
    But rest assure who ever gets it all, better enjoy it and not just let them sit there and ruin, because I will know where they live and might just visit! LOL
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    My very best friend of 45+ years passed away a year ago and she and I have sewed and quilted constantly the whole time we have known each other. We live about 5 miles apart in the country. I did not know exactly what she wanted done with her "stash" but she did have a daughter-in-law, granddaughter and a sister and a bunch of nieces. Oh yes, she had an entire bedroom FULL of fabric on the bolts in bookcases, etc. and then a basement where she had her longarm machine, rolls of batting, and fabric.

    So, imagine my shock and horror when my DH and I went over there one day and her DH said that he had spent the past two days burning her fabric, etc. I actually thought I was going to be sick. Seems he did not like her family enough to share with them. But, I was able to get some fabric in plastic totes that were in her closet - guess that he did not know that it was fabric in them or he would have burned them too. I also got her books and when I asked about any of her paper patterns, etc. he said that he guessed that he had already burnt them. Really sad.
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    No dumpster, please! Donate the fabric/sewing machines, etc. to your local guild for charity quilts. they will be delighted to get it, and the needy will love the results.

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    What a selfish, spiteful man - or is he suffering from dementia? Even if he didn't want his wife's family to have the fabric and sewing gear, he could have donated it to charity or sold it.

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    Wow I never gave it any thought. I do have a daughter and sister who does most everything I do.
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    it looks like giving it to friends and family comes in first, then charitable organizations and guilds and then sell everything. my partner and i share our love of quilting, but we have different tastes in fabric. so, i suppose i will do the same...friends and family is first. quilting friends could take what they would like to have, and the rest could go to their guilds. (i don't belong to a guild.) my partner and i certainly have to discuss this a little more in depth, i guess. thank you for bringing this dilemma into the foreground for me to ponder.

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    I don't have a lot of stuff, a few vintage machines and a little stash, but it all goes to my DD who is an only child. I told her to do what she wants with it. She likes to sew, but doesn't have a much of time for it. I imagine her donating some, selling some and keeping some of my things.

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    My guild will know what to do. What's left after family goes through it will go to 1) the charity group I quilt with, then 2) St. Vincent DePaul store to be sold. I've shopped in there often enough to know that it will be appreciated by someone.
    johans, Michigan's UP, Hiawatha National Forest West

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    I have 1 son, a daughter-in-law and a 3 year old grand daughter. I plan to teach my grand daughter to sew and quilt and embroider so she will get everything but if she is too young to care about my things my sister (who quilts) gets it-she has 2 daughters too that might be interested.
    Talk to family to see who might want things.

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    @ janegb-Is your avatar a Morse machine? I just got one and have to get busy cleaning and servicing it. It looks like a 57 Chevy!

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    Now it's got me thinking. We've discussed it at our bi-weekly quilt meetings, but never really put anything in stone. And as far as DH is concerned, I would hope he would call upon my girlfriends to help out. My DD & DS aren't really interested in any of it, nor is my DDIL. I would call upon my girlfriend to take charge, take what she wants and let the rest of my quilt buddies go through the rest. I'm going to have to write down my request and give copies to my DS & DD, DH and friends. If my DH burnt my stuff I would be rolling in my grave....well, my ashes would be up in the wind!!!!
    The trouble with Trouble is.....It usually starts out like fun!!

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    I told my dh to donate it to my charity quilting group. Or to have my friend advice him on how much to price everything if for some reason he needs money. I want to not have flowers but have people donate to various charities.

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    Yes that is really something everyone should think about.

    I went once to an Estate sale where everything in this house was quilt related. I knew the people running the sale and they had no clue so they called me. I went in first and wow got some great stuff. This lady was the Queen of quilt shopping and this was after her neighbor got what they wanted..so I piled all my stuff up and they gave me a real good deal as they had no clue as how to price things...then I called all my quilting buddies and told them to getover there ASAP. We all made out like bandits. I only wish I had more money to spend!

    Maybe one thing you could put in that Will is to have whoever who is in charge to call your local Quilt Guild and have them come and help and then give the guild part of the profits for their input. At least you will know it is not going to Goodwill and not into the trash!

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    I don't think it's weird at all - I've thought about the same but haven't done anything about it. I also need to figure out what happens to the fur babies...guess we know where my priorities are
    Shannon

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    You can put my name down, I'll love it like my own. LOL

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    I have thought about it. No one in my family has the least interest in anything sewing related. The only reason some may fight over anything is just to fight. So I have already gotten rid of a lot of my vintage machines and will probably end up selling the few I have left. All Singer , all of the rocketeer type. I am trying to finish up all my big quilt tops and not start anymore just do small ones after this. I want to use up as much of my stash as possible and after that I will just buy what I need when I need it. I have already mostly cleaned out my extras in notions and am using up things like needles. Anything left can be given to anyone interested. I am not going to care one way or the other. lol But they better not throw out so much as a spool of thread , I despise waste.

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    I have no one to give it to, hmmmmm maybe bury me like a mummy???
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    I love this will.will add it to my real will

    Quote Originally Posted by nygal View Post
    I read where you should pin the names of your friends on your onfinished quilt tops etc and that way if you "go" when your family is going thru your stuff they will say "Oh, mom wanted Suzie to get this etc. I thought that was a good idea.

    I looked up the Quilters Will and here it is....
    http://quiltville.com/quilterswill.shtml
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    Quote Originally Posted by fleurdelisquilts.com View Post
    My husband and I had an odd conversation (for 50 year-olds anyway) about what I want him to do with my studio "stuff" if I go before him. After informing him that he IS going first, I really got to thinking about it. I have more stuff than any quilter really should, but he's a good hubby and apparently he loves me cause he actually takes me to quilt shops even with all the fabric and notions and machines that I already have. He figures that stuff in my studio is worth many thousands: two machines, a long arm, fabric, notions, lace, yarn, I don't know what all. Plus the stuff that I inherited from my mom.....

    Okay, so what did I say? Goodness, I have no idea! Now I'm worried someone (namely my sons and dil's) will burn my stuff just to get rid of it!!! Oh goodness, that will not do. No one in my family can sew even a button, so there's no one to give it to or to say "decide about this."

    Have you made arrangements for your quilting supplies and machines? What have you decided? What can anyone do or not do? How do they know? I'll agree that none of it will matter to me when St. Pete is asking questions, but I'd like to know that my work and love will not be tossed without even a thought. Like anyone, I've got tons of money and countless hours of working, organizing, hoarding in there. I need some advice! It's occurred to me that my work and hours may not even be considered.....
    I have often wondereds myself. So one thing that I have done I have made quilts and just given them to all my sisters and nieces so they will have something to remember me by. I have also made a quilt and sent it to this 80 year old Lady in Ohio that was very kind to my brother when he needed help. There is just something about given something away and not expecting anything in return is such a blessing. You could make quilts for shelters or baby quilts for hosptials there is many people in need out there.

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    If you Really don't have a Soul in your Family Who will Give a #*[email protected]*#$ Why not look for a Charity such as 'Linus Project' they are Always needing the things you have! PS. This could be in your Will.
    Last edited by icon17; 09-05-2012 at 07:23 AM.
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    I just thought of a request. When I die, who ever's left, I think it would make more sense, instead of THEM sending flowers, I send everyone in attendance, each, home with a fat quarter. The more I think about it, the more I like it!

    Or maybe a pile of fat quarters there with a sign saying how much I wanted them to have one.
    You know that feeling when you've finished all your quilting projects and your studio is perfectly clean???? Me neither.

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