Jenel, Lisa, Dunster, you all are so silly! Dunster, you are welcome to be the wise one, I'm not all that comfortable with recognition, LOL!
Thank you all anyway.
This particular piece of wisdom was hard learned and I admit it has taken me 60-some years to really get it down into my being to the place where I quickly recognize these people and refuse to give them influence in my life. Sadly it also includes my father, still alive at 90, but who has been 'telling' me for 55 years that he didn't want to be the father of his children, even though I tried to please him all that time.
Jan in VA