I have to tell you, it will get easier, it just takes time. It has been about 4 years now for me, and I still have a flash about 8 times a day. And I am still hot all the time, but it has gotten better. The not sleeping is what has gotten to me, going to sleep, only to wake up an hour later , and be up from then on. And DH swears that it snows in our bedroom, summer and winter. He has been great though. I still cry for no reason sometimes, but that is also getting better, and I am able to go out shopping without wanting to kill the check-our girl :lol: :lol: All I can say is, "This too shall pass". I have gone through with out taking anything. I had an Aunt and 2 friends who took the hormones, and they all had breast cancer, so i was terrified of taking anything, and now that it is about over, so glad I didn't.