Every marriage is different. DH and I are very independent of each other. I don't feel guilty spending time in my sewing room while he is watching sports or movies that bore me and he doesn't expect me to feel guilty. I honestly don't want him being my shadow in my sewing room or be my shopping partner. He wouldn't like doing that anyway. We do things together we both enjoy, not compromising to please the other. We have no money concerns so that issue is never a problem.