Patience is the key. Neither stray we have likes to be touched very much. One we have had 7 years is mostly outdoors. One we have had 2 years mostly inside. Both are tabbys so I wonder sometimes about that. Our other two are DSHs who were lucky enough to be taken from their ferrel mom very very early, bottle fed with loving attention and have much better dispositions. Unfortunately now there is a long hair grey and white who comes to our front porch in bad weather. We have a trap but not consistent in setting it ... All we have caught is one of our own cats and a possum!!!!!