Years ago, when my three kids were little, I hung a sampler in my kitchen that said "my home is clean enough to be healthy, ans messy enough to be happy.". This attitude has served well for many years, as well as the Sidetracked Home Executive rule, Set the standards for orderliness yourself. For me, I like a clear sink, a made bed, so my handmade comforter and shams look nice, and most things put away. Now that we are retired, we try to pick up after ourselves and keep things in fair shape, without getting obsessive about it. Just our level of comfort. Plenty of time to quilt, too!