Get her to watch "My cat from hell". Mine were all playful when kittens but now "nadda". He has soooo many helpful tips... I love my kitties. They are getting up in age (aren't we all?). Calico (Callie) is 11, 3 blacks (Buddy, M; Bailey, M & Daisy, F) (I keep colored collars on them to tell them apart) are 4. My son has the mom to my Callie & they have Blackie (F15).