The talented people designing the patterns and producing the books are making their living doing so. It is against the law and just plain wrong to copy someone's work unless they give you permission! I have loaned patterns and books to close friends and relatives, but most of the time they end up buying a copy if they really like it and if I know they can not afford to, I purchase it for them. There are a lot of free patterns out there and if the woman can not afford to purchase patterns she can get a lot free. Just tell her "I do not share my books but will be happy to write the name down for you" and point out that it is stealing from the designer and leave it at that!!!