Oh honey, now is the time to walk out of the sewing room and CLOSE THE DOOR, pour yourself a large glass of your favourite beverage, and just not think about the whole thing for at least 24 hours. There is a very good possibility that by hour 25, you will have come up with a calm, reasonable and doable solution to your problems.
I am so sorry that you are having so many problems with this beautiful pattern. I really hope that you can resolve it to your satisfaction.