Arguements are not all bad. But you need to keep controll of your emotions and try not to be hurtful. When we argue we tend to let out things we have been thinking but not saying so to keep the peace. But it is good to get these things out in the open and not let them bottle up inside til you have a big emotional explosion.
If you can calmly talk about issues before they get to be an arguement that would be better but arguments will happen. Just forgive each other and start over. Hang in there you love your spouse or you wouldn't have married them!!