I don't understand not sharing a recipe either. One lady at our church always brought the same dishes to our dinners. She wouldn't share the recipes with anyone that asked. Said they were family recipes and they would be passed down to her girls. She had to move to a care facility and her daughters had her recipe binder in the estate sell. Our church secretary bought it and put it in our church library. You never know what family will do no matter what you plan and think they will do.