aliaslaceygreen

This may be a bit harsh, I apologize in advance, I am not looking to make anyone feel badly.

I actually had to get up, and walk away from this thread, and greet my husband at the door, to tell him I loved him.

I work, he works. However he out-earns me by more than double my income, so the big bills, the 'real' ones, are his.

If you do NOT work outside the home, consider the cost he would have for a maid service, a laundry service and a meal service. You do thousands of unpaid jobs that he couldn't hire someone to do, therefore you are JUST as deserving of some of the money he brings home, because you make it possible for him to go to work every day and come home to a home that is warm, clean and safe.

Unless I am planning on spending more than $500 of MY MONEY, I feel it is not a bit of his business. He is of the same feeling. I don't want to know about every car part he thinks he can't LIVE WITHOUT (but I hear about it anyway, lol) and he really doesn't get the same level of excitement over my finding 5 fabrics that look cool together.

I inherited $1000 from my Nana and because "I" decided I wanted to put it toward a $1300 machine, we talked. I didn't ask his permission.

It hurts, physically hurts my heart, to hear that one grown adult feels the true need to hide $30 of spending for something that makes her happy from another grown adult who is supposed to be a partner, not a parent or a jailer.

I also think we may toss about the word "addiction" lightly, when really we are not talking about something destructive; we use it for its drama, for its heightened sense of meaning, but I don't think most of us are discussing an actual addiction, just a pleasure, a hobby, an avocation.

I'm sorry if I've offended, but it is one of my pet peeves.(Don't get me started on men being asked to babysit their own children!!)