I solved my problem with DH's reminding me about spending. I took one day and made a list of all the things I have made and their retail cost. I make clothes, bathing suits, home dec, quilts and presents. When he saw the list and the total, he was amazed. He'd never thot of it that way and I never heard another word about what I spent on sewing including machines.
I also made lists of what he and the four boys spent on their "toys". Cars were their thing and then motorcycles for racing. Our DH's just don't see the big picture till you put it in dollars and sense. Marion