Try local women's shelters or Salvation Army shelters that house families or abuse women shelters. I make pillowcases and donate household and body care items to the abuse shelters here.
For the Quilts For Kids check their website and see if there is a local chapter in your area that you can work with. For shipping the quilts, try using the vacuum bags to reduce the bulk before shipping them. This should allow you to ship items in smaller boxes to reduce the postage.