Here I always tie them. I have never had one that didn`t stay to tied unless the kids did it. Some of my sister-in-laws hand sewed quilts with a group of relatives. (called it a quilting Bee) I never had even stiches, even with all their encouragement, so I tied mine. I used yarn, or embroidering floss. several strands together. With 5 kids and more grand kids, they were washed a lot and always stayed together. I loved it so much I help out friends, since I had the frames, of course we never charged any thing, just having the adult company was good enough.
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