This one was a stumper for me.
I guess when you asked what charity means to me as a giver AND as a receiver, my first thought was that I am blessed to not need charity, however I have always considered anything that anyone has given me or done for me a kindness.
So I'd have to say that as a giver I look at it as a kindness; extended to anyone, whether in need, for whatever reason or circumstance, whether it be a quilt, a batch of cookies or a $5 bill. That frees me from searching for certain places to give and lets me seize any opportunity that falls in front of me. I'm sure that we are all the same, we just may have forgotten to add what we deem as charity to simply fall under the category or kindness.......both as a giver and a receiver.