Well I think we need a good old southern a-- whipping here starting with the mother, then the son & kids. Tell them if they don't pay for what was destroyed that you will file charges against them. The 13 year old can be charged in juvenile court. Scare the hell out of them. Even if you don't it, it will make them think twice. It will boil down to you or them concering the BF. Might be a good thing to know now instead of later. If you marry, make sure you keep all your property in your name & not jointly as his kids could cause you problems. Dot all your I's & cross your T's. Have seen too many people get screwed in 2nd marriages. I would still be mad. I would tear my kids a new behind if they even thought of doing such a thing. I have taught them to respect other people's property. Can't say the same for some of other family member's children. Hang in there girl.