I love Billy's idea about the brownies. I also would tell Boyfriend that he could pay for damages/missing items. If he don't like it, show him where the door is and tell him to not let the doorknob hit him in the butt on way out. Everyone who knows me or is kin to me knows to keep their kids in line when I am around...whether at my home, their home or church, shopping, etc...when kids act up and mom or dad doesn't correct it fast enough, I will. I will verbally stop them or scold them and if that don't work I get them by the arm and take them to parents and tell them to correct them or I will. I'm from the old school honey....spare the rod and spoil the bod. My kids sure knew better when they were growing up. and make their kids mind now thank God.