Originally Posted by NJ Quilter

Here's the other end of the spectrum. I have no children (saving fur babies). When I married husband #1, we paid for the wedding; honeymoon, etc. ourselves. It was not a large or lavish wedding. Had a home and all the trimmings for it. My folks gave us $500. They never liked him either.

When I married DH (current) #2 (whom the folks liked) - same deal We paid for everything. Even smaller this time - immediate family only. Got a picnic basket and a check for $300 from folks.

When Bro #1 married- destination; large; lavish wedding - the gift to them was - hotel rooms for everyone on our side of the family; rehearsal dinner; sizeable check. Justification - her folks were spending a lot of $$.

Bro #2 married - local; large wedding. As far as I know - sizeable check.

When sis married - paid for the entire wedding (minus a few small items they required her to pay for -they didn't like her (then) husband either.

My only suggestion - make sure whatever you are doing for this child, you are also able to do (at least in kind) for any other children you may have.