Our son and his wife had a destination wedding and a reception here in the community where both we and they live. They had both been working for several years and completely paid for all their wedding/reception expenses. We bought them a lovely, large upright freezer. We are a farm family and they wanted a freezer to store pork and beef, etc. When middle DD married just after graduating college we, of course, paid for her wedding and reception (about $12k). Now,four years later, she and her husband have justbuilt a huge, beautiful home. We recently gave them patio furniture. Youngest DD was married in Nov. Of course, she had the wedding of her dreams at a cost of double her sisters wedding. We will eventually give she and her husband a gift comparable to her siblings but will wait till they, also, have a house. We like to help our kids but didn't feel the pressure to 'gift' them right at the time of their wedding. They have been very appreciative of the way we've done it.