When you quilt for charity, you honestly don't know what has happened to your quilts. Maybe the lack of knowledge and lack of ability to know is comforting to you. You have no idea if the recipient also dumped your quilt after 2 weeks, or began using it as a floor mop in a week.
I make simple quilts for charity because I don't want to spend a lot of time on them because I don't know what is going to happen to them. I do know that people who generally "get a lot given to them" often have a very "easy come/easy go" mentality. Don't assume that somehow they appreciate them more than your own family. They may, or may not.
No flames necessary. We have a charitable organization here in Poland and these things are first-hand observations.
But as to your family, is there anyone else in your family who might want a quilt? They might like one--just ask first. I make no assumptions when it comes to family wanting quilts--they need to request a certain quilt if they are going to get one.