Originally Posted by
zozee
I guess I DO know why I'm reluctant to sew for family. My mom put a quilt that I made (wall hanging) in a closet after I gave it it her even though she ooh'ed and aah'ed over it). I never saw it again but have been afraid to ask her where it is or why she never displayed it. Another time I made a quilted pillow case (decorative) for my adult daughter and she loved it--but only for 2 months, then gave it to Goodwill. I know I should give without expecting my creation to be used by my family .
The 2nd or 3rd quilt I ever made I gave to my mom. I specifically chose fabrics that I thought would be suitable for her house ( I did not have any stash yet). I made the quilt because I had just been bitten by the quilting bug and wanted to quilt. When I gave it to her I told her if she did not like it or want it (she lives in Arizona, not sure if she really has much need for a quilt) to feel free to do whatever she wanted with it. When I was there last spring I did not see it anywhere in her house. It occurred to me then that quilts are just not part of what she would choose to use. Some people have very specific tastes in what they want in their homes. I think that is the case with my mom as she is very into "decorating". She is VERY supportive of my quilting and ooh's and ahh's over the quilts I make, but again, quilts are just not her thing. She did ask me to make my Dad a lap quilt after he had a stroke and needed something besides a hospital blanket :-) I quilt because it is a creative outlet for me; once I give a quilt to someone they can do what they want with it :-)