I too, have learned no quilt gifts unless they are requested. A few years ago, 3 neices (all sisters) were expecting 6 weeks of each other. I made each of them lovely baby quilts; and resented them all on Christmas Day. One sister was just tickled and giddy; another was brought to tears; the third never even said 'thank you'. Lesson learned.
I am pleased and actually honored to make a quilt when asked. Otherwise, I make them for Project Linus.