I had a coworker tell me that she was singing my quilting praises to a friend of hers (I did appreciate that). My coworker then asked if I would make a quilt for her friend. This was my opportunity to do what I felt in my gut and I took into account all of the messages and comments I had read about valuing your work and time. I simply said "Thank you but, no... there are just too many variables involved and I prefer not to do custom work for people other than family". It felt so liberating to say it! Now that I have done it once, I will not have a problem saying it again if asked.